Date: 28 May 2013 11:12:49 -0000
Baba
Note: For the comfort and ease of all, it has to be admitted that at present there are three types of Ananda Margiis: (a) Those fully in slumber, (b) those who are half-asleep, and (c) those who are 100% alert and awake. What follows is a factual, verifiable account; it is neither rumour nor hearsay. The intent is to clean the organisation. We do not want the misdeeds of certain Wts to be reported in major leading newspapers of that area. That will be very bad. If you feel you are in group "A" (i.e. in full slumber) then please do not read the below letter.
Namaskar,
The situation is dire. One of our own home girls is about to be handed over to a government orphanage. This is against the girl's desire as she wishes to remain in our Ananda Marga children's home. If she is deposited in the orphanage, she will most probably end up married with a Muslim man; she will become his 6th or 7th wife etc and lead a life of degradation and neglect. We must not allow the in-charge Didiji to follow through with her plan of depositing our home girl in this governmental orphanage.
No one should think this is a false alarm, because in the recent past this same Didi has handed over our home girls to government orphanages. In one case, the home girl was given to an orphanage and soon thereafter selected by a Muslim man for marriage. So this is a grave matter.
For more details about the current situation and past ordeals, read below and review our call to action.
Tragically in some of our own Children's Homes, pseudo-culture values are in vogue as the girls learn all kinds of pop songs and dances from the TV and radio etc. They long for that filmy way of life. This is what happens when young impressionable minds are subjected to the brunt of materialism and not given any scope for moral training and spiritual life.
Sadly, a few Didis have utterly failed those children in this regard by not instilling within them any higher values. After all, according to Baba's system, that is the way our children's homes are to be run. Those girls are to be given love and affection as well as all kinds of dharmic teachings: Sadhana, kiirtan, spiritual and moral training, 16 points, and more. The aim first and foremost is for those children to dedicate their lives for suffering humanity and become wholetime workers. In the event that this does not happen, then those girls should marry and lead a margii life.
So it is absolute abhorrent that a few didis have completely drifted from Baba's ideals and guidelines and instead exposed these young girls to the ills of sensual materialism. The end result is that the girls get hooked to pseudo-culture. This is the very real situation that we are facing these days - sadly enough. Such didis should be taken to task and face punishment as in many cases they have literally ruined the lives of those young girls. It is criminal how those didis have misled those innocent young girls. Such didis should be held responsible and face inquiry from a tribunal etc. Such incidents must not be taken lightly.
Certainly though, not all Didis fall in this way; some have created excellent children's homes. Those didis are to be held in high regard and given scope to train and teach others how to create a loving, dharmic environment in our Ananda Marga children's homes.
However, there remain a number of problem scenarios where Didis run their children's home like a pseudo-culture factory and fail to instill any higher values in those innocent girls. Many say this happens because such Didis themselves long to lead a life of material enjoyment; they do not want to live as a sannyasi. They wish for something else; and, in result, make pseudo-culture the main item in the chilren's home. Devoid of love and affection and exposed to lowly values, naturally those innocent youths are drawn in the wrong direction. But it is not their fault. All blame lands squarely on the shoulders of those Didis who fail to impart an inkling of spiritual and moral guidance. This is the underlying cause of why one of our girls is about to be placed in a governmental orphanage.
Please come forward and voice your concern about this most serious situation. Didi Ananda Dyotona must not be allowed to give the child to the government shelter. The situation is urgent as any day Didiji will hand over the girl. That is the critical situation right now. And over the longer-term, intervention methods are needed to raise the standard of our children's homes.
Here following are some important and relevant teachings given by Sadguru Baba.
Here are some of Baba's key teachings on this topic:
"When the parents are about to go on a trip or go to a show, or when they are invited to a pleasant function or a social outing, the children may start whining or nattering to accompany them. At such times many parents tell lies without a qualm; somehow they dupe their children and leave. When the children realize what has happened, they also learn to tell lies; and to hide their intentions or their actions from their parents, they gradually start lying more and more."
"Parents deceive their children in many ways. By calling sweet things bitter and pleasant things unpleasant, they prevent their children from enjoying them. But by disregarding parental injunctions and prying inquisitively, as is the wont of human nature, children discover the truth. Then they realize that their parents have been deceiving them. As a result they start deceiving not only their parents, but their friends and classmates as well. So it is abundantly clear that children are taught the first lessons in the arts of lying and deception by their own parents at home."
"In a family it is natural that differences of opinion will arise among the adults; when they do, the adults should reconcile their differences considering each other's opinions. Unfortunately they often lack the requisite mental make-up to reach an amicable agreement – each tries to convince everybody else of his or her viewpoint without caring about the opinions of others. The result is an outburst of unreasonable obstinacy – the adults lose all self-control and behave in a gross and vulgar manner. The effect on the minds of the children is disastrous. Children thus learn obstinacy from their elders. If the mother or those with whom the children spend most of their time is obstinate, the neglected children will, in most cases, become noticeably obstinate, and they will have to carry this psychic ailment around with them for a long time. If, on the other hand, as is sometimes the case, the wishes and desires (if they are not unreasonable) of children are fulfilled, the children will not have the opportunity to learn obstinacy." (1)
"It must be the teachers' responsibility to impart knowledge, teach restraint in social life, and give instruction about all the various aspects of collective endeavour, but the parents will have to take on most of the responsibility for the moral and spiritual education of the child. It should be the duty of society as a whole to ensure that the children of immoral and unrighteousness parents are brought up as virtuous citizens. If possible such children should be removed from the unwholesome environment of their parents." (2)
"The mental outlook of children has already been moulded in a particular fashion by the influence of their family environment before they start school. No matter what or how much they learn at school, it is extremely difficult for them to free themselves from the influence of their family. Drawing on what they have learned in the family, the immature minds of children begin to learn about the world and understand it, and to receive ideas and master language so that they can express those ideas. Unhesitatingly they adopt their elders' way of looking at the world. Hence the primary responsibility for acquainting children with the world lies with their parents or guardians. Children will become assets of society in the future to the extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly." (3)
Namaskar,
in Him,
Sadhana Devi
REFERENCES:
1. Human Society Part 1, Education
2. Human Society Part 1, Education
3. Human Society Part 1, Education
Baba
Note: For the comfort and ease of all, it has to be admitted that at present there are three types of Ananda Margiis: (a) Those fully in slumber, (b) those who are half-asleep, and (c) those who are 100% alert and awake. What follows is a factual, verifiable account; it is neither rumour nor hearsay. The intent is to clean the organisation. We do not want the misdeeds of certain Wts to be reported in major leading newspapers of that area. That will be very bad. If you feel you are in group "A" (i.e. in full slumber) then please do not read the below letter.
== CALL TO RESCUE THE HOME GIRL #1 ==
Namaskar,
The situation is dire. One of our own home girls is about to be handed over to a government orphanage. This is against the girl's desire as she wishes to remain in our Ananda Marga children's home. If she is deposited in the orphanage, she will most probably end up married with a Muslim man; she will become his 6th or 7th wife etc and lead a life of degradation and neglect. We must not allow the in-charge Didiji to follow through with her plan of depositing our home girl in this governmental orphanage.
No one should think this is a false alarm, because in the recent past this same Didi has handed over our home girls to government orphanages. In one case, the home girl was given to an orphanage and soon thereafter selected by a Muslim man for marriage. So this is a grave matter.
For more details about the current situation and past ordeals, read below and review our call to action.
SYSTEMIC PROBLEM IN OUR CHILDREN'S HOMES
Tragically in some of our own Children's Homes, pseudo-culture values are in vogue as the girls learn all kinds of pop songs and dances from the TV and radio etc. They long for that filmy way of life. This is what happens when young impressionable minds are subjected to the brunt of materialism and not given any scope for moral training and spiritual life.
Sadly, a few Didis have utterly failed those children in this regard by not instilling within them any higher values. After all, according to Baba's system, that is the way our children's homes are to be run. Those girls are to be given love and affection as well as all kinds of dharmic teachings: Sadhana, kiirtan, spiritual and moral training, 16 points, and more. The aim first and foremost is for those children to dedicate their lives for suffering humanity and become wholetime workers. In the event that this does not happen, then those girls should marry and lead a margii life.
So it is absolute abhorrent that a few didis have completely drifted from Baba's ideals and guidelines and instead exposed these young girls to the ills of sensual materialism. The end result is that the girls get hooked to pseudo-culture. This is the very real situation that we are facing these days - sadly enough. Such didis should be taken to task and face punishment as in many cases they have literally ruined the lives of those young girls. It is criminal how those didis have misled those innocent young girls. Such didis should be held responsible and face inquiry from a tribunal etc. Such incidents must not be taken lightly.
Certainly though, not all Didis fall in this way; some have created excellent children's homes. Those didis are to be held in high regard and given scope to train and teach others how to create a loving, dharmic environment in our Ananda Marga children's homes.
However, there remain a number of problem scenarios where Didis run their children's home like a pseudo-culture factory and fail to instill any higher values in those innocent girls. Many say this happens because such Didis themselves long to lead a life of material enjoyment; they do not want to live as a sannyasi. They wish for something else; and, in result, make pseudo-culture the main item in the chilren's home. Devoid of love and affection and exposed to lowly values, naturally those innocent youths are drawn in the wrong direction. But it is not their fault. All blame lands squarely on the shoulders of those Didis who fail to impart an inkling of spiritual and moral guidance. This is the underlying cause of why one of our girls is about to be placed in a governmental orphanage.
FINAL CALL
Please come forward and voice your concern about this most serious situation. Didi Ananda Dyotona must not be allowed to give the child to the government shelter. The situation is urgent as any day Didiji will hand over the girl. That is the critical situation right now. And over the longer-term, intervention methods are needed to raise the standard of our children's homes.
Here following are some important and relevant teachings given by Sadguru Baba.
HOW GUARDIANS INSTILL NEGATIVE VALUES
Here are some of Baba's key teachings on this topic:
"When the parents are about to go on a trip or go to a show, or when they are invited to a pleasant function or a social outing, the children may start whining or nattering to accompany them. At such times many parents tell lies without a qualm; somehow they dupe their children and leave. When the children realize what has happened, they also learn to tell lies; and to hide their intentions or their actions from their parents, they gradually start lying more and more."
"Parents deceive their children in many ways. By calling sweet things bitter and pleasant things unpleasant, they prevent their children from enjoying them. But by disregarding parental injunctions and prying inquisitively, as is the wont of human nature, children discover the truth. Then they realize that their parents have been deceiving them. As a result they start deceiving not only their parents, but their friends and classmates as well. So it is abundantly clear that children are taught the first lessons in the arts of lying and deception by their own parents at home."
"In a family it is natural that differences of opinion will arise among the adults; when they do, the adults should reconcile their differences considering each other's opinions. Unfortunately they often lack the requisite mental make-up to reach an amicable agreement – each tries to convince everybody else of his or her viewpoint without caring about the opinions of others. The result is an outburst of unreasonable obstinacy – the adults lose all self-control and behave in a gross and vulgar manner. The effect on the minds of the children is disastrous. Children thus learn obstinacy from their elders. If the mother or those with whom the children spend most of their time is obstinate, the neglected children will, in most cases, become noticeably obstinate, and they will have to carry this psychic ailment around with them for a long time. If, on the other hand, as is sometimes the case, the wishes and desires (if they are not unreasonable) of children are fulfilled, the children will not have the opportunity to learn obstinacy." (1)
RESPONSIBILITY FOR THE MORAL AND SPIRITUAL EDUCATION OF THE CHILD
"It must be the teachers' responsibility to impart knowledge, teach restraint in social life, and give instruction about all the various aspects of collective endeavour, but the parents will have to take on most of the responsibility for the moral and spiritual education of the child. It should be the duty of society as a whole to ensure that the children of immoral and unrighteousness parents are brought up as virtuous citizens. If possible such children should be removed from the unwholesome environment of their parents." (2)
PRIMARY RESPONSIBILITY LIES WITH PARENTS OR GUARDIANS
"The mental outlook of children has already been moulded in a particular fashion by the influence of their family environment before they start school. No matter what or how much they learn at school, it is extremely difficult for them to free themselves from the influence of their family. Drawing on what they have learned in the family, the immature minds of children begin to learn about the world and understand it, and to receive ideas and master language so that they can express those ideas. Unhesitatingly they adopt their elders' way of looking at the world. Hence the primary responsibility for acquainting children with the world lies with their parents or guardians. Children will become assets of society in the future to the extent that their parents or guardians discharge their duties properly." (3)
Namaskar,
in Him,
Sadhana Devi
REFERENCES:
1. Human Society Part 1, Education
2. Human Society Part 1, Education
3. Human Society Part 1, Education
